Ok, so you’ve decided to try a different “persona” in the bedroom. But what to do, and who will you be when you do it. These are a few basic ideas for those couples trying out new setups.
Professor/Student: Just… a little bit wrong
The “Hot for Teacher” is a classic. There are many ways to lean into this recurring fantasy. Is the teacher a sultry seductress eyeing their star athlete? A professor locked in the room with his grad student? The (cough-cough) flexibility of this particular scenario can make it easily tailored to individual tastes. No need to jump right to cheerleaders or ripped math profs (but no harm either). Fundamentally, this is about a professional relationship filled with such erotic tension that the participants can’t help themselves. Doctor/patient, coach/player, journalist/rockstar, everyone knows better, but what’s the harm? 🙂 While there is no wrong way to do roleplay (as long as everyone is having fun)- here are a few spicy hooks that lend to this kind of play.
- Risk of being caught: “What are you doing? Anyone could walk into my-” office, classroom, closet,
- Time is of the essence during a professional day. The appointment/interview/detention will end, and in the meantime, anyone could come in.
- Mutual Seduction: “I’ve had a crush on you since September, Professor… You’ve… grown a lot in that time….”
- This can be hot because both characters want to enjoy each other NOW! It’s also a good scenario for new people because while they are still in character, it leads to the deed very quickly.
- A little bit of blackmail: “This is the worst test I’ve ever seen, Brad; I’m afraid you’re really going to have to work very hard to avoid summer school” OR “Hello, Mr. Johnson, did I see you the other night with Professor Carol… but aren’t you married. Don’t worry; I’m sure we can come to an understanding.
- This is helpful for people trying to lengthen both the physical and psychological parts of foreplay. The “seducer” is in constant physical contact, telling exactly what will happen if they’re not completely satisfied. It’s also a good transition into the next “scenario.”
Boss/Secretary: Who’s Got the Power
There’s an old expression in storytelling, “everything is about sex except sex… that’s about power.” While simply not true, it does touch on how often the two are intertwined in our desires. Some folks like being told what to do and doing it really, really well. Others expect to be understood and obeyed. The Boss/Secretary is probably the most well-known of these related troops. Still, again, this comes in a lot of different forms: From the medival (King/Queen to their servant), the modern equivalent (CEO hires live-in mistress a’la Fifty Shades of Grey), or the suburban version (housewife and pool boy). Here are a few activities to indulge in.
- Complete a job while being distracted: “Here’s a test. I need this copied in three minutes, but I need to be sure you can focus through anything.
- A fun way to bring more foreplay into the roleplay. This can, of course, chain, “missed a comma! I’m afraid you’ll have to be punished.” Pretend Phonecalls, cleaning, fixing up the house.
- “Evaluate” your employee. “I want to see you in red. Take off your dress and try this on… I didn’t say to leave.
- Have the dominant partner “oversee” their employee while they demonstrate what makes them the “perfect” person for the job. Spin and show off, try on new clothing, or “play” solo to excite the boss. The “secretary,” after all, is there to please.
- Switch up the Dynamic: How dare you speak to me in that tone, Mr. Johnson. On your knees and beg for forgiveness.
- Sometimes nothing is hotter than a dominant personality worshiping their partner. Dukes pleasure their maids, the pool boy makes the rich lady beg for more, or the secretary calls her friends while the boss gives her a massage. Time for new leadership.
Priest/Nun: Forgive me, Father, for I will Sin
Taboo is a strange little concept where everyone will have their own lines. But in this little setup, we can play with corrupting the inherently non-sexual (as opposed to merely professional with Student/Professor). The Priests and Nuns are celibate, promised to god, and seducing them are not only bad but sinful. In other words, they want to have sex with you so much that they’re willing to go to hell for it. There are other vaguely taboo concepts that play with social lines (step-siblings/parents or werebeasts/other monsters). Still, all of these allow partners to delight in the safety of each other in forbidden fantasies. A few suggestions on how to use these concepts-
- Confession: “Father, this is terrible but-”
- Tell the object of your desire about the dreams/fantasies you’ve had about them. Go into as much detail as you feel comfortable. This works easily for the religious conceit but can be adapted for others. It could be the hot-step brother reading your “diary” or the vampiress forcing you to confess. Also, don’t feel like you have to come up with it at the moment. Build anticipation by writing out a few sentences about what you imagine your “partner” doing to you.
- I can’t control myself: I tried to stop but…
- While one should be careful with this particular trope for many this is a favorite. A monster chasing you down, and a nun tying you to the bed, all of these hint at the taboo nature of the scene.
- Let them Watch: Leaving your cares behind-
- What if the “father” is in the middle of the sermon when the nun decides to show her “oral support.” Or it’s a holiday dinner and the stepfather throws their naughty new daughter/son onto the table in front of everyone and chows down.
Firefighters: I need a Hero
Sometimes the situation isn’t hot but the person might be. We’re not only talking firefighters but depending on you and your partner: detectives, doctors, lawyers, superheroes, or literally prince/princess charming. This person who is about to make you feel amazing is in fact a god/ess in human flesh. Odd to say in “roleplay” but this is more character-based with one partner usually taking control. A few scenarios are-
- Rescued: “Are you ok?”
- You bet! This is an easy set-up that leads to some fun time. The firefighter/hero/doctor rescued you and is checking to make sure you’re ok. What are you going to do about it?
- What needs doing: “It’s the only way.”
- Is it weird that the only way to help with smoke is mouth-to-mouth, maybe… A prince has to wake up his sleeping princess with more than a kiss, or the only way to get the poison out of their system is to go down…
- Villains need love too: “So what do I do with a goodie too shoes”
- Has the FBI agent been caught by the hunter, or has the villain captured their nemesis? Sometimes the most fun you can do with a good person is making them be bad… at least for a little while.
Fan-Favorites: You know who I always liked…
Lots of us first start thinking about sexy time roleplaying because there was a character on screen who just did it for us. Our first crushes are often these fictional folks. This is a very varied set of circumstances (good) but here are a few moments where partners can have fun-
- Romance: In the Stars
- These characters are already in a relationship in the source material. So go have fun. Find a moment you think these folks would engage in sexy time and go on. The better you know the material the better. A small idea is if you are “recreating” a spicy scene go ahead and play it in the background. Bridgerton has some intense scenes which might be fun to finish.
- Shipping: They should be together!
- Sometimes even authors don’t understand who should be together. Now’s your chance to make that happen. Romeo and Juliet… boring… Romeo and Mercutio now that’s what I’m talking about. We all know what Watson and Holmes do to each other even if the writers don’t.
- Enemies to Lovers:
- That chemistry between people trying to kill each other is hot. Problematic maybe, spicy you bet. Draco and… basically anyone.